There was a great programme on Radio 4 this week, with Jenny Murray and included Dr Miriam Stoppard, about the mother/son relationship. I had to identify with much of what was said, including one description of how special the relationship is.
At one point, JM remarked, 'How are we going to get through this without bursting into tears?', which made me laugh because tears were already rolling down my face making white lines down my hastily applied 'bronze' face powder. This is always scrubbed on at top speed in the mornings, accompanied by a sinking, 'Oh Lord, I'm late' feeling.
The programme discussed the mother in law aspect of the relationship, which can be a really touchy subject in some families, and so much of what I worry about for the future of my sons.
One point that was discussed that I pondered on and now come to a conclusion for myself..is the love unconditional. I think as they get older (and develop behaviour issues at times), yes the love is unconditional but approval is conditional.
Attila the Stockbroker read out a poignant and very touching eulogy he'd written about his mother, well worth a listen. He obviously bursts with pride about her part assisting the scientists to crack codes at Bletchley Park during WW2, and I totally identify with this, being so humbled and having so much respect for my parents' very different War experiences. My late father was a Polish prisoner of war in Russia and carried the scars from shot wounds suffered during the war on his body and head. He was also at Monte Casino. My mother was younger and endured the war as a child, it ended her education and scattered her family.
PS On a totally different note, why are some programmes on tv obsessed with bonking? If you leave the telly on it appears unnanounced at any time, my 5 year old thinks I have a nervous tic, jumping to the remote to switch over all the time, even in the afternoon. I think it's a good filler of time when the story is weak, plus it's bound to sell but can't we have a choice to opt in instead of out? Sure, you have the option to 'not watch', but as I don't have the time or inclination to peruse the pogramme guide to scan for adult content per day, I'm at a disadvantage. No wonder tv is more often off than on here.
At one point, JM remarked, 'How are we going to get through this without bursting into tears?', which made me laugh because tears were already rolling down my face making white lines down my hastily applied 'bronze' face powder. This is always scrubbed on at top speed in the mornings, accompanied by a sinking, 'Oh Lord, I'm late' feeling.
The programme discussed the mother in law aspect of the relationship, which can be a really touchy subject in some families, and so much of what I worry about for the future of my sons.
One point that was discussed that I pondered on and now come to a conclusion for myself..is the love unconditional. I think as they get older (and develop behaviour issues at times), yes the love is unconditional but approval is conditional.
Attila the Stockbroker read out a poignant and very touching eulogy he'd written about his mother, well worth a listen. He obviously bursts with pride about her part assisting the scientists to crack codes at Bletchley Park during WW2, and I totally identify with this, being so humbled and having so much respect for my parents' very different War experiences. My late father was a Polish prisoner of war in Russia and carried the scars from shot wounds suffered during the war on his body and head. He was also at Monte Casino. My mother was younger and endured the war as a child, it ended her education and scattered her family.
PS On a totally different note, why are some programmes on tv obsessed with bonking? If you leave the telly on it appears unnanounced at any time, my 5 year old thinks I have a nervous tic, jumping to the remote to switch over all the time, even in the afternoon. I think it's a good filler of time when the story is weak, plus it's bound to sell but can't we have a choice to opt in instead of out? Sure, you have the option to 'not watch', but as I don't have the time or inclination to peruse the pogramme guide to scan for adult content per day, I'm at a disadvantage. No wonder tv is more often off than on here.
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